Ladies, I have been thinking about this for a while, and I’m curious to know how you all deal with this issue.
I remember when I was working in an auto detail shop a few years back, and a good looking brother came in to get some information. As men are apt to do, he starting flirting with me. Of course, since I was married, I didn’t give any flirt back at him. 😐 Right as I was about to tell him what we offered, his woman came in. Let me tell you all, the look on her face said, “Oooh, I wasn’t expecting a sister to be up in here! I should NOT have let you come in here first like that!! This here sister probably gonna try to steal you right out from under me!!”
(I don’t know if she was thinking all that, but her face was expressive)
So sister girl proceeded to grab brother man’s hand real tight, to let me know that he was all hers! I was smiling inside, 🙂 but remained professional. Then sister girl, a very light skinned, redheaded freckled face beauty, went a bit further–to make sure that I understood that I was to keep mah hands offa her man by saying, “Yes I’m the wife of Doctor So and So!” Yes chile, that brother was a doctor! My inward-facing smile widened. 😀 At that time, Doctor So and So lowered the wattage on his own smile, and went into professional mode for the rest of the transaction.
I also went into a particular mode: I did my best to not smile or show any kind of flirt whatsoever. I kept my eyes offa that man unless he was talking directly to me, and even then I put my eyes squarely on the paperwork in front of me. Whenever I looked up, I made eye contact with Mrs. Doctor first, then him. As she saw me doing this, I guess she decided that I was NOT gonna try to steal her Doctor out from under her. She was then able to relax.
Yes, I did that whole thing just for her, just to reassure her that I indeed had no intentions of trying to take her man. But I do this kind of thing to a lesser extent on a regular basis. Whenever I’m out and about, and I come upon a couple, I always close up any open blouses, pull down the skirt, and tuck in the butt. I don’t know why I do this, but I always start to wonder if the woman may be insecure about her man. I never want to make any sister feel that insecurity just because I’m around. I notice though, that many women are not trying to do all of that and they just act like their normal beautiful, bootylicious selves, and if it seems like flirting, then so be it!
Am I Doing Way Too Much?